poetry: TBH

I wrote this poem in August of 2022.

heartbreak brings up raging hello kitty energy…hahaha

My love data tells me I shouldn’t try again because every time
I crash and burn and cause trauma and drama
because every time it ends, I get hateful and want revenge
and While I do appreciate the poetry that comes
after every broken relationship
I don’t think I can withstand the heartbreak and devastation
the next time it ends

poetry: IHOP

I wrote this poem in August of 2020.

this was the best AI generated Art could do…idk,,lol

I met you on a cold January night at the IHOP
across your apartment complex
As I was eating up my loneliness
with scrambled eggs and coffee
I hoped you couldn’t see remnants
of tears that had fallen before you came
and you sat across from me
and as we awkwardly made conversation
I wondered if you would be the one
to breathe new life into my almost dead existence
I wondered if your kiss would help me
reignite a fire of desire, would remind me
I’m more than a wife and mother
But most of all I wondered if maybe, just maybe
someone would finally love me

poetry: twice

I wrote this poem in July of 2025.

The world has ended for me more times than I care to remember,
more time than I care to count
something about my soul being too sensitive for this world
something about desperation and frustration embedded in me
since I was a little kid
every slight, every roll of the eyes feels like an earthquake inside
everything is intensified twice

poetry: la cigarra

I wrote this poem in July of 2025.

took a picture of a dying cicada without its consent
didn’t even know what it was until I googled its picture
I just thought something so vibrant and colorful dying was beautiful
just thought this is the closest I’ll come to nature in this unforgiving july heat
and then I discovered cicadas signify transformation, rebirth, and resilience
so it made sense to me why I noticed it
something so small, almost insignificant everyone else would walk by it
but I, about to have another transformation I never asked for
was attracted to it, noticed it, observed it closely,
perhaps, it was my own spirit reflecting my current ego death
as I’m about to level up to the next version of m

How to Pursue Your Self-Improvement Goals Without Burning Out

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How to Pursue Your Self-Improvement Goals Without Burning Out by Dean Burgess

Self-improvement is the ongoing process of building healthier habits, learning new skills, and making intentional changes that help you grow over time. While personal development can improve confidence, relationships, and career opportunities, it can also become exhausting if you constantly chase perfection instead of sustainable progress.

Many people begin with enthusiasm only to lose momentum after setting unrealistic expectations. The good news is that meaningful growth doesn’t require constant hustle. A balanced approach helps you improve while protecting your mental and physical well-being.

The Key Ideas at a Glance

  • Focus on steady progress instead of dramatic transformations.
  • Build habits that fit your current lifestyle.
  • Allow time for recovery just as you would for work or exercise.
  • Measure success by consistency, not intensity.
  • Reevaluate your goals regularly so they continue serving your needs.

Why Burnout Happens During Personal Growth

Burnout often develops when every area of life becomes another project to optimize. Reading dozens of books, following countless productivity influencers, or trying multiple new routines simultaneously may feel productive at first, but it can quickly become overwhelming.

A healthier approach follows a simple pattern:

Problem: Trying to improve everything at once creates stress and inconsistency.

Solution: Prioritize a few meaningful goals and build sustainable habits around them.

Result: You make steady progress without sacrificing your energy or enjoyment of life.

Instead of asking, “How can I become my best self this month?” ask, “What small improvement will still matter a year from now?”

Small Habits Often Beat Big Goals

Large ambitions are exciting, but daily actions produce lasting results. Rather than overhauling your entire routine, identify habits that are realistic enough to maintain during busy weeks.

For example:

  • Read 10 pages each day instead of aiming to finish a book every weekend.
  • Walk for 20 minutes rather than committing to intense workouts seven days a week.
  • Practice a new skill for 15 minutes daily.
  • Spend five minutes reflecting on your day before bed.

These habits may appear modest, yet they compound into meaningful improvements over months and years.

Choosing Education That Fits Your Life

Education can be an excellent part of a personal development plan, especially if you’re preparing for a career change or pursuing advancement in your current profession. Many people now choose online learning because it offers greater flexibility around work and family responsibilities. Today’s online programs cover a wide range of fields, and healthcare professionals have specialized pathways as well—for example, registered nurses can pursue online coursework toward a Bachelor of Science in Nursing (BSN). If you’re comparing programs, a neat overview can help explain what to expect from an RN-to-BSN option and how it may fit into your long-term goals.

A Practical Self-Improvement Checklist

Before adding another goal to your list, ask yourself:

  • □ Does this goal genuinely matter to me?
  • □ Can I realistically maintain this habit for six months?
  • □ Have I left time each week for rest?
  • □ Am I comparing myself less to others and more to my past self?
  • □ Will this improvement make my everyday life better?

Answering “yes” to most of these questions usually indicates you’re pursuing growth at a sustainable pace.

Balance Your Ambition With Recovery

Improvement doesn’t happen only while you’re working. It also happens while you’re recovering.

Sleep, hobbies, downtime, and meaningful relationships all contribute to better decision-making, creativity, and resilience. Taking breaks isn’t a sign that you’ve lost motivation—it helps you maintain it.

One useful habit is scheduling recovery with the same intention as productive work. A quiet evening, an afternoon outdoors, or simply disconnecting from your phone for a while can make it easier to return to your goals with renewed focus.

Healthy Growth vs. Burnout: A Quick Comparison

Healthy Personal DevelopmentBurnout-Prone Approach
Sets a few clear prioritiesTries to improve everything simultaneously
Builds gradual habitsDepends on constant motivation
Celebrates consistent effortFocuses only on major achievements
Includes regular restFeels guilty about taking breaks
Adjusts goals when circumstances changePushes forward regardless of stress

One Resource Worth Exploring

If you’re interested in learning more about building lasting habits, James Clear’s Atomic Habits resources offer practical, research-informed ideas about creating systems that encourage consistent improvement rather than relying on willpower alone. You can explore articles and free resources at:

The emphasis on making small, repeatable changes complements a balanced approach to personal development and can help you stay motivated without feeling overwhelmed.

Frequently Asked Questions

How do I know if I’m pushing myself too hard?

Common signs include constant fatigue, losing interest in activities you once enjoyed, difficulty concentrating, irritability, and feeling guilty whenever you rest. If your pursuit of improvement consistently leaves you exhausted instead of energized, it’s worth slowing down and reassessing your goals.

Is it okay to focus on only one area of self-improvement?

Absolutely. Concentrating on a single meaningful objective often produces better long-term results than dividing your attention across many unrelated goals. Once one habit becomes routine, you can gradually introduce another.

What if I miss a few days?

Missing a few days is normal. The important thing is returning to your routine without treating temporary setbacks as failure. Consistency over months matters far more than maintaining a perfect streak.

Can personal development include asking for help?

Yes. Mentors, teachers, coaches, therapists, and supportive friends can all contribute to personal growth. Seeking guidance is often a sign of commitment rather than weakness.

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Moving Forward One Step at a Time

Personal development works best when it supports your life instead of taking it over. Sustainable habits, realistic expectations, and regular recovery create a foundation for meaningful progress that lasts. Rather than chasing perfection, focus on becoming slightly better than you were yesterday. Over time, those small improvements add up to lasting change.

poetry: this song era

I wrote this poem in July of 2025.

People watching days are over, this Song era is now my reality
no more longing or yearning over what could have been
or what I once upon a time wanted it to be
instead I focus on the genuine and loving connection in front of me
the one who’s not afraid of the creative beast who resides in me
and makes me feel heard and seen
even if sometimes that seems cringe or weird
Especially after I admitted I had watched him while he slept
this time he allows me to him without flinching
when I tell him he’s the new muse of my poetry
and he’s brave enough to share his feelings without shame
and reminds me of all the things he likes about me
the one who feels like my sanctuary to lay my love and poetry in