I’ll leave an emotional stain on your life that will be hard to get rid of You’ll curse the day I was born You’ll regret the day you ever meet me because I demand respect, because I’ll never be your safe place because I’ll say “no” to being relegated to the role of mistress and you’ll accuse me of being crazy and narcissist just because I wanted to be treated with dignity just because I want to be seen as more than another girl to pass the time with
going from “people watching” energy to “Juno” energy is not for the weak it’s accepting that finally your time has come and your turn is here despite your many attempts to build an impenetrable wall no one can get through someone was brave enough to get to know you, to claim you as theirs and while there is still a jaded part of you that attempts to not make much of this because at the end they all leave the romantic in you wins and you fall like alice into the wonderland of love
once my boundaries are crossed, I CUT YOU OUT LIKE TAGS ON MY CLOTHING (like the great Conan Gray said)
it’s not romance, it’s harassment placing me on your dream girl altar and telling me about your boner Even after I told you no But then you still threw me your delusional love and when I was honest right away and I told you “I’m sorry but no” somehow now I’m a crazy bitch, a stranger who’s letting her mental illness talk for her after calling out your misogynistic behavior All I said was no to you and the insults come on cue I warned you, didn’t I and now foul, you cry I told you I wasn’t ready for what you had to offer but you kept playing the part of my great admirer and maybe I’m fucked up in the head but your fantasies I needed to behead I needed to keep myself safe from men like you who try to bully me into loving them into giving in because your endless attention and compliments haven’t you read my story? I’m not no longer a woman who bends and bends to man’s thirst for me
my rage comes in like a bright orange burst and it explodes in social media posts, my notebooks, and journal it’s my inner child scared and anxious who feels threatened and take it upon herself to call on middle age me to defend her, to protect her from the cruelty and abuse happening in front of her so many families like mine torn apart so many immigrant children like me many years ago crying for their parents not understanding why this is happening and I feel the heavy weight of impotence not knowing how I can help or what to do to stop all of this needless pain and suffering happening in front of me and all I see is a bright orange burst of rage ready to punch walls because my empathetic and soft heart feels the cries, the whimpers, the screams of the parents and kids whose only crime was to leave their country in search for a better life
I’ve walked through the warzone of my love life long enough to know when a bomb is about to explode (when I fall of some guy’s dream girl altar) It’s a minefield full of suppressed feelings consequences of accommodating to a man’s ego And I’ll tread ever so carefully I don’t want to be alone, I just want to be loved, I’ll bend and bend until you call me Gumby Except I’m not and then I’ll snap and another bomb will go off “You’re crazy,” you’re dangerous” “ I don’t recognize you” all for expressing my feelings and wanting respect and dignity
to inhabit and exist in my body is exhausting it’s constantly being in fight or flight mode constantly waiting in hypervigilance for the next atrocity from this administration wondering if my son will make it home today without incident worrying if my parents or brother will be taken away by the American Gestapo lighting candles and praying on my rosary for my family’s safety and my sanity try my best to function as democracy is falling and continuously reminding people yes, immigrants are human beings and deserving of respect and dignity
especialmente aquel hombre que me falta El respeto
No me vendo por tus promesas o tus piropos o por dinero o por tu supuesto amor porque yo valgo mas que mi belleza porque soy todo un mundo de magia y talento entonces quedate con tu dinero y falsas promesas de amor y nunca me busques mas
floating in a neon pink haze , the afterlife awaits no more suffering, no more mental health crisis no more dark doses of reality this could be lovely and nice but I’m pushed out by forces beyond my control wake up in a fog my soul’s purpose has not been fulfilled I must continue telling my story
Mastering the Business Side of Creativity Without Losing Your Passion by Ian Garza
For small creative business owners, designers, writers, makers, and photographers, the work itself often feels electric, and everything around it can feel like a drag. Business management challenges stack up fast: money conversations, client expectations, messy timelines, and the constant fear that structure will smother artistic passion. Many creative entrepreneurs end up balancing creativity and business by pushing the admin tasks to late nights, then wondering why the spark starts to dim. With a few steady foundations, the business can support the art instead of competing with it.
Quick Summary: Creative Business Basics
Set pricing with confidence by choosing a simple strategy you can explain and stand behind.
Use basic contracts and clear invoices to protect your work and get paid smoothly.
Build a lightweight workflow that keeps projects moving without draining your creative energy.
Market authentically by showing your work and values in a way that feels like you.
Organize finances with simple systems so you always know what is coming in and going out.
Set Up Your Creative Business in One Clean Pass
Here’s one way to walk through this.
This process helps you put simple business foundations in place without smothering your creative energy. For general readers, it matters because a few clear defaults reduce stress, speed up payment, and prevent awkward client or contractor situations.
Pick a basic legal structure you can live with Start with the simplest option that fits your reality today, not an imaginary future version of your career. If you are solo and testing demand, many people begin as a sole proprietor, then switch later if taxes, liability, or growth make it worthwhile. If you are weighing an LLC, use a clear state-by-state breakdown like Zippy LLCs to compare filing requirements and formation-service options without overthinking it. Write down what you are optimizing for this year: simplicity, protection, or scalability.
Compare setup paths and choose your “today plan” Create a side-by-side list with three columns: “Do it myself,” “Use a formation service,” and “Hire a pro.” Compare them by cost, time, and how confident you will feel filing and tracking basics. Choose the path that you will actually complete this week, because finish beats perfect.
Set pricing with a minimum floor and a simple menu Pick a baseline rate that covers your time, tools, and admin work, then build a small menu of 2 to 4 common offers with clear deliverables. A quick way to keep your spark is to price for outcomes and boundaries, not endless revisions. Add one sentence to each offer that defines what “done” means.
Use an independent-contractor contract and stay consistent Use a straightforward contract template for every project, even with friends, so expectations stay calm and professional. If you ever hire help, start with a contractor vs employee classification assessment so you do not accidentally treat a contractor like staff. Watch for red flags like company-provided training that can blur the relationship.
Invoice from a template and lock in a repeatable workflow Create one invoice template with your pay terms, late fee language if you use it, and a short description of what the client is paying for. Then build a tiny workflow you reuse: inquiry, scope, contract, first invoice, work, final delivery, final invoice, archive. Put it in a checklist so your admin takes minutes, not mental space.
You are building a container that protects your art, not a cage that limits it.
Streamline Admin with One Hub for Setup, Compliance, and Routines
Once your foundation is in place, the next win is making the day-to-day admin feel lighter instead of louder.
A comprehensive business platform can pull your scattered tasks, contracts, invoices, expense tracking, branding, and compliance, into one place, so you’re not rebuilding the wheel every time a new project lands. That kind of “single hub” setup reduces decision fatigue: fewer logins, fewer tabs, fewer half-finished systems competing for your attention. Whether you’re forming an LLC, keeping up with compliance requirements, creating a website, or handling finances, a platform like ZenBusiness can pair comprehensive services with expert support, helping you keep the back office moving without it stealing your creative energy. The result isn’t a more complicated business, it’s a simpler, more reliable one, where your tools and routines protect your time, keep your work organized, and make steady growth feel doable.
With that steadiness under you, marketing can shift from “ugh, I should” to a repeatable, low-pressure way to be found by the right people.
Market Yourself Without Feeling Salesy: A Simple Playbook
Marketing gets a lot easier when it stops feeling like a separate personality you have to put on. The goal is an authentic marketing rhythm you can repeat, even on busy weeks, without draining your creative spark.
Build a “small but sharp” portfolio: Pick 6–10 pieces that show the work you want more of, not everything you can do. Give each piece a 1–2 sentence caption: the problem, your approach, and the outcome (even if the outcome is qualitative, like “approved on first round”). Put it all in one link you can drop into emails, proposals, and invoices so your admin “hub” supports your marketing instead of creating extra steps.
Choose three brand anchors and reuse them everywhere: Consistent personal branding doesn’t mean a perfect aesthetic, it means people recognize you quickly. Decide on (a) one sentence for what you do, (b) three words for your vibe (e.g., “playful, precise, calm”), and (c) two proof points (e.g., turnaround time, process, niche). A useful reminder is that a personal brand isn’t about performance, it’s about purpose, so keep your anchors tied to what you value, not what you think will “sell.”
Write two case studies using a repeatable template: You don’t need a long blog, two solid “before/after” stories do a lot of heavy lifting. Use this structure: Context → Constraints → Your process → Result → What you’d do again. Keep each one to 200–300 words and add one image or screenshot. This gives you ready-made material for your website, pitch emails, and even a proposal section.
Collect social proof like it’s part of the project: Add a 2-minute “wrap” step to your workflow: request a testimonial the day you deliver, while the win is fresh. Offer prompts so it’s easy: “What were you struggling with before?” “What changed?” “What would you tell a friend about working together?” The most common types of social proof include reviews, testimonials, user-generated content, and case studies, pick two formats and standardize them.
Use low-pressure outreach that sounds like you: Save three short messages and personalize them in under five minutes: a “saw your work” compliment, a “quick idea” relevant to their project, and a clear ask (a 15-minute call or permission to send a one-page scope). This works because it’s human; 45% of respondents say incessant advertising made them lose confidence in a brand, so lead with relevance and respect, not volume.
Set a sustainable weekly marketing block (and track it like admin): Put one 30–45 minute block on your calendar for “visibility”: update one portfolio caption, request one testimonial, send two outreach notes, or post one process photo. Keep a simple log in the same place you track invoices and deadlines so you can see what effort leads to inquiries. That clarity also makes it easier to set confident policies around deposits, boundaries, and what happens when the scope shifts.
Business Boundaries FAQs for Busy Creatives
Q: How do I set boundaries with clients without sounding “difficult”? A: Frame boundaries as a process that protects the work, not a rule that punishes people. Use simple lines like, “Here’s what I can deliver by Friday,” and “Here’s what needs a change request.” Put response hours and revision limits in writing before you start.
Q: What should a deposit policy actually say? A: Keep it plain: the deposit amount or percentage, when it’s due, and that work begins after payment clears. Add one sentence on refunds, such as “Deposits are non-refundable once scheduling and prep begin.” Include the remaining payment timing tied to milestones or delivery.
Q: How do I stop scope creep when clients keep adding “tiny” requests? A:Understand scope creep to name the issue, then offer two options: swap something out, or approve a paid add-on. This matters because uncontrolled requirement changes can derail projects, even when everyone has good intentions.
Q: When should I use a change order versus just being flexible? A: Use a change order when the request affects time, deliverables, or number of revisions. If it’s truly minor, confirm it in one sentence in email so both of you agree on what changed. The goal is clarity, not bureaucracy.
Q: Can financial tracking be simple enough for tax time? A: Yes: track income, expenses, and receipts in one place, and schedule a 15-minute weekly update. A practical starting point is pulling last year’s tax return so you know which forms and categories you’ll likely need again.
Small policies create big calm, and calm is where your best work shows up.
Simplify Your Systems So Your Creativity Stays Centered
When you’re trying to protect your creative spark, business tasks can feel like a constant tug-of-war with your time and energy. The steadier path is a simple, repeatable approach: start small, keep it consistent, and let confidence in business systems build through practice rather than pressure. With clear boundaries, basic tracking, and a few foundational business tools, finances and workflows stay tidy enough that decisions get easier instead of louder. A simple system you use beats a perfect system you avoid. Pick three tools, then schedule a 30-minute monthly business review to keep things honest and manageable as you begin scaling your creative business. That steady rhythm is what turns talent into resilience, stability, and room to grow.
In therapy I’m supposed to write about the last thing that cause me grief and I think it’s funny considering the tons of poetry and journal entries I’ve written about it I’m tired of writing about it, I’m tired of talking about it I’m tired of thinking about it and I want to tell my therapist I don’t have homework for this week but this is part of therapy this is what I need to address the unhealed trauma within so I’ll write for the 1000th time about the last thing that caused trauma and grief hoping my therapist will provide valuable insight on how to let go of it
one day I’ll give my testimony of how I burned down to ashes and resurrected from them and wrote my powerful chapter called empowerment and love and how the worst of me had to happen in order for me to to become the powerhouse in front of you
If you had an unlimited budget for 24 hours, what would you do?
Pay off all of my debt, pay mine and my parents rent 12 months in advance and pay my son’s car note. Also go through any go fund me friends and acquaintances and donatewhat they need. Also, sign up for a couple of writing workshops and pay fees for that. And buy lots of pretty dresses, journals and books. 🥳🥳🥀
I believe in second and third chances because more often than not I’m the one who’s written off because more often than I’m left after the first time I fuck up because more often than I’m expected to be almost perfect and this weighs on me heavily but it’s my cruel reality so I’ll give a second, a third, even a 4th chance because I believe people can change because I accept people for the humans they are because even if my benevolence burns me at times at least I don’t commit an emotional crime cause judgment without compassion makes one an inhumane and callous
And so she self medicated with sleeping pills, alcohol and Almodovar films she wanted to drown out the feelings of worthlessness within her she was exhausted from repeating the same lust story she needed just for today to numb out her feelings, to escape the fire in her brain that burns with self-pity and self hate