I’m paid less than everyone according to the statistics and it’s simply because of my ethnicity and gender at times I get mad about this but then I’m like, it is what it is and won’t change in the near future instead I continue to work hard for my and my kids betterment and try my best to live out my immigrant dream
he’s loved me from the start even if I’ve been high maintenance his love has never wavered even when I came home pregnant at 17 he never took away his encouragement even though I married a man almost as old as him he is my papi- he’s not perfect in any shape,way or form but his love is almost close to perfect
Cochran street was supposed to be our bright new start in a new country naive immigrants we all were thinking america would accept us thinking our family would have our back instead my parents were exploited and me and my siblings were treated like indentured servants- we never talk about how the toxic it all was
or the trauma it brought or how we tried to fit in a country where we were squares in a peg holes and how dad fell further into his addiction and depression and we don’t talk about any of this because dirty laundry is never aired out in public
I was supposed to have been born in Cuzco but drama kept me away until I was two cusco saw me walk for the first time cusco saw me blossom with the attention and affection of my family and everyone else I learned to be happy with the new freedom my legs gave me but one day that changed when I was four when the baby sitter hurt me -hurt me for being spoiled hurt me for having la tez clara and she gave me a phobia of water and my resilience created an imaginary friend Calinchia to help me face and process what happened to me and eventually blocked my trauma
When I’m 54, I want some things to stay the same and others to change I want to love freely unafraid and unashamed and without apologies without the anxiety I have right now that one day he’ll leave I want to have the same creative energy that motivates me, and continue to share mine and my family’s stories that will continually be seen and make me succeed I want to not worry so much if it’s a matter of when this epidemic of violence and madness reaches someone in my family or live with the fear one of my loved ones will be detained I want to have hope for the future of my children and descendents that when I leave this earth things will be better for them because I did the work so they didn’t suffer and can enjoy life a bit more also , I want to be filled with financial stability where I’m not doing financial gymnastics to pay my bills on time and an no longer a slave to my debt but mostly when I’m 54, I want to have evolved as a healer who continues to share her light in this world as a poet, writer, and storyteller
dating a soldier in not for the weak in these modern time especially now with a civil war and WW3 on the horizon our new love story could be cut short if he’s deployed Things can get complicated and messy if end up dehumanizing or ripping apart families like mine because its his job it makes me wonder if we were foolish in the throwing caution to the wind and getting into a relationship it makes me wonder if we have any chance of working out
If you could change the ending of any book, which one would it be?
I’ve recently finished rereading Paula by Isabel Allende. It’s a memoir that Isabel Allende wrote while her daughter was in a coma. Allende wrote about the extra ordinary life she’s lived. Like that woman went through a lot of hardships, from being raised by a single mom in 1940s Chile to moving around a lot because of her step-dad’s job to being exiled in the 70s and she had to seek out refuge in Venezuela. She wrote this book with hope that her daughter would wake up from her coma to read it. Sadly, that didn’t happen because her daughter died at the end. So, I wish I could change that part and that some kind of miracle would have come through for Paula and she would have woken up from her coma.
women’s empowerment is sold and neatly packaged with sabrina carpenter’s new album always the heroine for this consumerist society even if the intentions feel a bit icky, feel a bit 1950s, with a man pulling her hair like a bitch giving off sub energy that feeds into the handmaiden narrative of America is trying to write for women and with the shitstorm of the past 2 weeks, I don’t feel sane enough to form an opinion yet, except that this feels like a weirdly perverse distraction from the rise of fascism taking place in our country
I’ve walked through the warzone of my love life long enough to know when a bomb is about to explode (when I fall of some guy’s dream girl altar) It’s a minefield full of suppressed feelings consequences of accommodating to a man’s ego And I’ll tread ever so carefully I don’t want to be alone, I just want to be loved, I’ll bend and bend until you call me Gumby Except I’m not and then I’ll snap and another bomb will go off “You’re crazy,” you’re dangerous” “ I don’t recognize you” all for expressing my feelings and wanting respect and dignity
Mastering the Business Side of Creativity Without Losing Your Passion by Ian Garza
For small creative business owners, designers, writers, makers, and photographers, the work itself often feels electric, and everything around it can feel like a drag. Business management challenges stack up fast: money conversations, client expectations, messy timelines, and the constant fear that structure will smother artistic passion. Many creative entrepreneurs end up balancing creativity and business by pushing the admin tasks to late nights, then wondering why the spark starts to dim. With a few steady foundations, the business can support the art instead of competing with it.
Quick Summary: Creative Business Basics
Set pricing with confidence by choosing a simple strategy you can explain and stand behind.
Use basic contracts and clear invoices to protect your work and get paid smoothly.
Build a lightweight workflow that keeps projects moving without draining your creative energy.
Market authentically by showing your work and values in a way that feels like you.
Organize finances with simple systems so you always know what is coming in and going out.
Set Up Your Creative Business in One Clean Pass
Here’s one way to walk through this.
This process helps you put simple business foundations in place without smothering your creative energy. For general readers, it matters because a few clear defaults reduce stress, speed up payment, and prevent awkward client or contractor situations.
Pick a basic legal structure you can live with Start with the simplest option that fits your reality today, not an imaginary future version of your career. If you are solo and testing demand, many people begin as a sole proprietor, then switch later if taxes, liability, or growth make it worthwhile. If you are weighing an LLC, use a clear state-by-state breakdown like Zippy LLCs to compare filing requirements and formation-service options without overthinking it. Write down what you are optimizing for this year: simplicity, protection, or scalability.
Compare setup paths and choose your “today plan” Create a side-by-side list with three columns: “Do it myself,” “Use a formation service,” and “Hire a pro.” Compare them by cost, time, and how confident you will feel filing and tracking basics. Choose the path that you will actually complete this week, because finish beats perfect.
Set pricing with a minimum floor and a simple menu Pick a baseline rate that covers your time, tools, and admin work, then build a small menu of 2 to 4 common offers with clear deliverables. A quick way to keep your spark is to price for outcomes and boundaries, not endless revisions. Add one sentence to each offer that defines what “done” means.
Use an independent-contractor contract and stay consistent Use a straightforward contract template for every project, even with friends, so expectations stay calm and professional. If you ever hire help, start with a contractor vs employee classification assessment so you do not accidentally treat a contractor like staff. Watch for red flags like company-provided training that can blur the relationship.
Invoice from a template and lock in a repeatable workflow Create one invoice template with your pay terms, late fee language if you use it, and a short description of what the client is paying for. Then build a tiny workflow you reuse: inquiry, scope, contract, first invoice, work, final delivery, final invoice, archive. Put it in a checklist so your admin takes minutes, not mental space.
You are building a container that protects your art, not a cage that limits it.
Streamline Admin with One Hub for Setup, Compliance, and Routines
Once your foundation is in place, the next win is making the day-to-day admin feel lighter instead of louder.
A comprehensive business platform can pull your scattered tasks, contracts, invoices, expense tracking, branding, and compliance, into one place, so you’re not rebuilding the wheel every time a new project lands. That kind of “single hub” setup reduces decision fatigue: fewer logins, fewer tabs, fewer half-finished systems competing for your attention. Whether you’re forming an LLC, keeping up with compliance requirements, creating a website, or handling finances, a platform like ZenBusiness can pair comprehensive services with expert support, helping you keep the back office moving without it stealing your creative energy. The result isn’t a more complicated business, it’s a simpler, more reliable one, where your tools and routines protect your time, keep your work organized, and make steady growth feel doable.
With that steadiness under you, marketing can shift from “ugh, I should” to a repeatable, low-pressure way to be found by the right people.
Market Yourself Without Feeling Salesy: A Simple Playbook
Marketing gets a lot easier when it stops feeling like a separate personality you have to put on. The goal is an authentic marketing rhythm you can repeat, even on busy weeks, without draining your creative spark.
Build a “small but sharp” portfolio: Pick 6–10 pieces that show the work you want more of, not everything you can do. Give each piece a 1–2 sentence caption: the problem, your approach, and the outcome (even if the outcome is qualitative, like “approved on first round”). Put it all in one link you can drop into emails, proposals, and invoices so your admin “hub” supports your marketing instead of creating extra steps.
Choose three brand anchors and reuse them everywhere: Consistent personal branding doesn’t mean a perfect aesthetic, it means people recognize you quickly. Decide on (a) one sentence for what you do, (b) three words for your vibe (e.g., “playful, precise, calm”), and (c) two proof points (e.g., turnaround time, process, niche). A useful reminder is that a personal brand isn’t about performance, it’s about purpose, so keep your anchors tied to what you value, not what you think will “sell.”
Write two case studies using a repeatable template: You don’t need a long blog, two solid “before/after” stories do a lot of heavy lifting. Use this structure: Context → Constraints → Your process → Result → What you’d do again. Keep each one to 200–300 words and add one image or screenshot. This gives you ready-made material for your website, pitch emails, and even a proposal section.
Collect social proof like it’s part of the project: Add a 2-minute “wrap” step to your workflow: request a testimonial the day you deliver, while the win is fresh. Offer prompts so it’s easy: “What were you struggling with before?” “What changed?” “What would you tell a friend about working together?” The most common types of social proof include reviews, testimonials, user-generated content, and case studies, pick two formats and standardize them.
Use low-pressure outreach that sounds like you: Save three short messages and personalize them in under five minutes: a “saw your work” compliment, a “quick idea” relevant to their project, and a clear ask (a 15-minute call or permission to send a one-page scope). This works because it’s human; 45% of respondents say incessant advertising made them lose confidence in a brand, so lead with relevance and respect, not volume.
Set a sustainable weekly marketing block (and track it like admin): Put one 30–45 minute block on your calendar for “visibility”: update one portfolio caption, request one testimonial, send two outreach notes, or post one process photo. Keep a simple log in the same place you track invoices and deadlines so you can see what effort leads to inquiries. That clarity also makes it easier to set confident policies around deposits, boundaries, and what happens when the scope shifts.
Business Boundaries FAQs for Busy Creatives
Q: How do I set boundaries with clients without sounding “difficult”? A: Frame boundaries as a process that protects the work, not a rule that punishes people. Use simple lines like, “Here’s what I can deliver by Friday,” and “Here’s what needs a change request.” Put response hours and revision limits in writing before you start.
Q: What should a deposit policy actually say? A: Keep it plain: the deposit amount or percentage, when it’s due, and that work begins after payment clears. Add one sentence on refunds, such as “Deposits are non-refundable once scheduling and prep begin.” Include the remaining payment timing tied to milestones or delivery.
Q: How do I stop scope creep when clients keep adding “tiny” requests? A:Understand scope creep to name the issue, then offer two options: swap something out, or approve a paid add-on. This matters because uncontrolled requirement changes can derail projects, even when everyone has good intentions.
Q: When should I use a change order versus just being flexible? A: Use a change order when the request affects time, deliverables, or number of revisions. If it’s truly minor, confirm it in one sentence in email so both of you agree on what changed. The goal is clarity, not bureaucracy.
Q: Can financial tracking be simple enough for tax time? A: Yes: track income, expenses, and receipts in one place, and schedule a 15-minute weekly update. A practical starting point is pulling last year’s tax return so you know which forms and categories you’ll likely need again.
Small policies create big calm, and calm is where your best work shows up.
Simplify Your Systems So Your Creativity Stays Centered
When you’re trying to protect your creative spark, business tasks can feel like a constant tug-of-war with your time and energy. The steadier path is a simple, repeatable approach: start small, keep it consistent, and let confidence in business systems build through practice rather than pressure. With clear boundaries, basic tracking, and a few foundational business tools, finances and workflows stay tidy enough that decisions get easier instead of louder. A simple system you use beats a perfect system you avoid. Pick three tools, then schedule a 30-minute monthly business review to keep things honest and manageable as you begin scaling your creative business. That steady rhythm is what turns talent into resilience, stability, and room to grow.
In therapy I’m supposed to write about the last thing that cause me grief and I think it’s funny considering the tons of poetry and journal entries I’ve written about it I’m tired of writing about it, I’m tired of talking about it I’m tired of thinking about it and I want to tell my therapist I don’t have homework for this week but this is part of therapy this is what I need to address the unhealed trauma within so I’ll write for the 1000th time about the last thing that caused trauma and grief hoping my therapist will provide valuable insight on how to let go of it
And so she self medicated with sleeping pills, alcohol and Almodovar films she wanted to drown out the feelings of worthlessness within her she was exhausted from repeating the same lust story she needed just for today to numb out her feelings, to escape the fire in her brain that burns with self-pity and self hate
saliva drips from my month as a gentle desire overtakes me tacos de carne asada with onions and cilantro in front of me he knew exactly how to start melting the jaded and bitter bitch in me he knew how to lure out the romantic in me who’s terrified to start anew and while to some it may seem like a simple gesture he knew that to me it meant everything
horace and betty flaunt 77 years of matrimony on the front page of the local newspaper and I’m both awestruck and jealous at their achievement because I couldn’t even get past year 11 of my marriage because now I can’t even get past a talking stage on any of the dating apps because I can’t imagine the kind of saintly patience, understanding and loyalty required for that kind of commitment
horace and betty flaunt 77 years of matrimony on the front page of the local newspaper and I wonder the fuck they did it what was the magic key to unlock both their doors to a lifetime of shared love,respect and vulnerability