my exes should all get a participation trophy for dating me, for marrying me, for putting up my madness for becoming muses of my poetry unwillingly, unintentionally for surviving the rollercoaster that is me
He looked at me like no oneβs ever looked at me He kissed me with an unquenchable passion unforeseen And he touched me, my body And my soul the way no one ever could He hugged me tight enough so I felt The entire essence of him, the past twenty years Of everything we ever felt for each other Twenty years of lust, obligations, lies, Hatred, resentment, passion, memories, life, And LOVE In his arms I felt like I was me AGAIN
I hope this story is buried for a final time and you donβt pop up again and I have to play whack an asshole once again blocking you on yet another platform would the universe be kind enough this time for it to be good riddance forever cause Iβm tired of my past mistakes to constantly come out of nowhere to disturb my present
Recession-Proof: Staying Sharp When the Bottom Drops Out by Ian Garza
When the economy tanks, the air changes. People move differently. You feel it in the supermarket aisle, where heads tilt at price tags like they’re trying to solve a riddle in a foreign language. Maybe youβre there, pen hovering over a notebook, drafting your next pitch while wondering if peanut butter can be considered a luxury item now. Recessions have a way of pushing people into the deep end, but oddly, thatβs where the best swimmers emerge. The trick is less about bracing for impact and more about learning to glide with the current. Here are seven ways to make the chaos work for you, journal in hand and mind on fire.
Cut Costs, Not Corners You donβt need to become a coupon-clipping caricature to start slicing your expenses with surgical precision. Start by conducting a cold, heartless audit of your monthly costsβsubscriptions, takeout, half-used gym membershipsβand ask yourself which of them you’d defend in a court of law. Reallocate the scraps toward things that either earn money or preserve your sanity. Groceries, for instance, offer massive wiggle room if youβre smart about what hits the cartβsave money on groceries by swapping brand loyalty for nutritional label scrutiny. Donβt eat out of boredom or habit, eat with purpose. A recession isnβt a punishment; itβs a new set of rules, and frugality is a game you can win.
Skill Up or Ship Out Those who thrive during downturns donβt wait for job boards to dictate their worth. If your industryβs shaking like a leaf, shift your gaze toward sectors that donβt flinch when markets doβhealthcare, IT, education, logistics. Thereβs a buffet of free online courses that can turn idle time into economic leverage. Learn Excel if you’re breathing. Pick up copywriting, coding, or UX design between episodes of that comfort show youβve already seen four times. Skills are portable power, and adding new ones doesnβt just insulate your incomeβit inflates your confidence. The job may not be instant, but the momentum is.
The Side Hustle Shuffle You donβt need to start a Shopify store selling ornamental cacti to qualify as an entrepreneur, but having a second income stream isnβt a luxury anymoreβitβs a survival tactic. Whether itβs reselling thrifted clothes or offering dog walking in your neighborhood, a side hustle doesnβt have to be revolutionary. It just has to work. Take an honest inventory of what you’re good at and find the angleβstart a side hustle that fits into your existing life, not the other way around. It might start small, maybe laughably so, but consistency snowballs. One gig turns into a rhythm, and suddenly, your βjust in caseβ income becomes your βthank God I didβ lifeline.
Write It Out Thereβs something quietly defiant about writing things down when the world feels untethered. Journaling isnβt about profound revelations or poetic flairβitβs about evidence. Document your spending, your mood, your micro-victories. Create a log of sanity that future-you will be grateful for. The benefits of journaling during tough economic spells are both psychological and strategicβit can help you track your patterns, spot opportunities, and process fear without letting it drive. For writers, itβs a gym session. For everyone else, itβs cheap therapy that never talks back.
Invest in a Home Warranty Nothing torpedoes a fragile budget like a busted HVAC or a rogue refrigerator. When repair costs punch a surprise hole in your wallet, having a home warranty isnβt just smartβitβs protective armor. These plans can cover major systems and appliances, offering a reliable safety net when unexpected breakdowns hit. The key is picking coverage that doesnβt just slap a Band-Aid on the issue. Find one that includes the removal of defective units and protects against breakdowns caused by botched repairs or sloppy installsβthis page is a good resource for comparing that kind of nuanced coverage. Youβre not betting on things going wrong. Youβre admitting they will, and preparing accordingly.
Community Over Chaos Isolation is expensive, both emotionally and practically. Reaching out to neighbors, local groups, or church networks isn’t just good mannersβitβs fiscal strategy. Thereβs a staggering array of local community resources offering everything from food distribution to financial counseling, yet many go untapped. Itβs not charity. Itβs infrastructureβone that exists precisely for this kind of moment. Volunteering also doubles as networking. You help others while subtly reinforcing your own safety net, a win-win most spreadsheets canβt quantify.
Mind Over Money Financial fear corrodes slowly, eating away at confidence and sleep and even relationships. Address it like you would any other health issueβdiagnose, manage, treat. Donβt ignore your stress or trivialize it. And donβt obsessively refresh stock tickers or headline feeds. Use breathing techniques, therapy apps, and if needed, professional help. Learn how to manage financial stress in a way that doesnβt involve locking yourself in a doomscroll loop until 2 a.m. The money part is real. The mental toll is realer. You need both ends intact if youβre going to make it through with anything resembling grace.
Thereβs no single blueprint for surviving a recession because recessions donβt care about blueprints. They bulldoze predictability and force reinvention. But they also burn away distractions and push people toward clarity. Whether youβre writing it out, hustling at night, or just trying to keep your fridge running without inviting financial ruin, the throughline remains the same: adapt with intention. You donβt have to thrive every day. You just need to keep movingβand that, on the worst days, is a kind of success all its own.
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De nuevo estoy aquΓ en el mismo sitio De los dΓas de mi rebeldΓa De los amores sin amor De las aventuras sin cobardΓa De los lazos que nunca existieron De la soledad sin aquel tristeza Y el amor Que nunca los dos sentimos
I wrote this poem in June of 2024. It was inspired by the disappearance of little Latina girl in my area that I didn’t feel was getting enough media attention.
it’s how this story made me feel
I pray for the little brown girl lost in Gainesville the one thatβs my sonβs age the one that looks like my sister at that age the one who has my mamiβs name I pray sheβs found alive I pray that she finds warmth in her parents arms soon I pray more of a big deal is made out of her disappearance and sheβs found quickly because Iβm sure that if this little girl had been a jonbenet look alike more would have been done to find her and bring her back to her family her community thatβs been missing her greatly
I canβt live without you another day But I have to stay away You are now part of my past To you, I was another piece of ass Even though I wish your love was mine Without you, I will be just fine Because no matter how weak I get The memory of you, I must learn to forget So with these few words I may win the war On loving you no more
Iβm ready for steak dinners and an expensive bottle of chardonnay shared over awkward getting to know you conversations with no expectations to put out Iβll be a completely different woman when Iβm dating again a woman selective about who allows near her a woman who no longer seeks validation and attention from the wrong men
a glass of champagne in my hand as I raise a toast who I used to be a woman mentally ill and needy a woman who gave men easy access to her hips a woman who thought intimacy could only be created and felt in between her sheets we say goodbye to the his woman lovingly as we usher a new era of me a woman who knows her worth and wonβt settle of anything less than she deserves